Don’t tell your spouse how to improve their relationship with their parents.

📌Don’t tell your spouse how to improve their relationship with their parents. d. Expect some adjustment time for parents after marriage to adjust to this new relationship. e. Remember that mothers are usually sceptical about daughter-in-laws and fathers about sons-in-law. f. Always treat your in-laws with compassion, respect and mercy. g. Maintain a balance between your needs and that of your in-laws. h. Never compare your wife to your mother or your husband to your dad. i.

Do not go to your parents with your quarrels. j. If you are supporting your parents financially inform your spouse as a matter of courtesy and clarity. k. Do not forbid your spouse from seeing family unless you fear for their religion and safety. l. Do not divulge secrets. m. Make time to know your in-laws but stay out of their disputes. n. Maintain the etiquette of Islam with your sister- and brothers-in-law (no hugging or kissing). o.

📌You are not obliged to spend every weekend with your in-laws. p. Give grandparents easy and reasonable access to their grandchildren. q. Be forgiving and keep your sense of humour. r. Remember that nobody can interfere or influence your marriage unless you allow them to. s. Invite in-laws at least once a month for a meal. t. Visit them when you can and encourage your spouse to visit their parents and regularly check on them. u.

When parents become dependent on their children, a serious discussion with all parties present should take place. Expectations and requirements of such a living arrangement must be worked out. 3. Parenting The tug of war that results from differing understandings of parenting is also a source of tension in the marriage. One solution is to start learning about Islamic parenting before having children. If you already have kids, you can still learn. (1) 4.

Stress Stress is an almost constant factor in most people’s lives in the world. Muslim couples are no exception. Stress from work, for example, is carried into the home. Couples and families need to work out a coping mechanism in the family. For instance, couples can take a walk to talk about the day or go to the Mosques for at least one prayer a day. They can read Qur’an individually or together.

The methods can vary, but as long as they are Halal (Permitted by Islamic Laws) and work, they can be used. 5. Domestic violence This is an extremely sad reality and unless it is dealt with promptly by victims, perpetrators and/or those concerned about the two, the family will break.

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