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When to get Married (2) - Al-Shia The Scientific and Cultural Website of Shia belief When to get Married (2) 2021-06-24 379 Views In this part of the topic “When to get married”, we shall be looking at the perspectives of experts in this regard.

Contents The view of an expert Discussion with a friend in this connection An important caution The view of an expert Sometime ago, I went to see Ayatollah Ibrahim Amini (a pious, discernible scholar conversant with family problems for many years, who has close contacts with the problems of youth).

I had a talk with him on his viewpoint of the marriage age, which he has discussed in his book “The Spouse Selection.” Before narrating the detail of the discussion, I hereby exactly cite what he has written in his book: The nature and special creation of man has fixed the age of marriage and that is the puberty age. When a boy reaches puberty at the age of 16 and a girl at 10 years, they can marry.

But it is better to delay the marriage up to 17 years and 14 or 15 years in boys and girls respectively. Because boys and girls do not have sufficient amount of mental and intellectual maturity at the beginning of puberty, and at this age might have difficulties accompanied with it. Furthermore, in the initial two or three years after puberty, sexual instinct is not completely awakened and does not pressurize the youth too much, and its endurance is not so much difficult.

Therefore, it can be said that the most suitable marriage age for boys is 17 to 18 years and for girls 14 to 17 years. But it is not advisable to delay their marriage beyond the above mentioned ages, since it may cause negative physical, spiritual or social diseases and discrepancies. (1) In addition, he writes: The sexual instinct, having completely and absolutely awakened, is provoked and excited and exerts pressure upon the youth.

And there is no alternative left except fulfilling the desire lawfully. The sexual urge is just like the urge and need for water and food. Can you tell a hungry of thirsty person to refrain from eating and drinking? Can another activity, even exercise and recreation or games, divert the attention of a hungry and thirsty one from food or water? The sexual urge too is like hunger and thirst, rather it is many times stronger and more powerful.

And, if it is not soothed and achieved through lawful means, it may deviate and drag a young one towards going astray and sin, and controlling it is very difficult.