Does a healthy person...

Does a healthy person, provided he does not care for the artificial difficulties and obstacles on the way to marriage, not require a spouse?” He said? “Why not, he does require it, but the sexual instinct and urge for a spouse alone should not be taken into view.

Instead, we must also view the other problems which are present on the scene.” I replied: “We have considered those problems and difficulties in chapter four.” He said: “But one thing which in my view had not been taken into consideration in chapter 4 and which pertains to chapter 2 is that the youth, the age group you have discussed, do not have the readiness, preparedness and vigor or energy to manage life. How could you expect a 19-year-old boy and a 16 year old girl to run a family?

Normally, they need the management and guardianship of their parents.” I replied: “Allah who has created man is all-Wise and has placed everything in the right position. The same Allah who has placed sexual instinct and demand for a spouse in man’s nature and ordained him to marry and has so very much stressed on the haste and promptness in marriage has definitely placed the energy and capability of running his life in him also. If there is a flaw or shortcoming, it is in our training.

It is our wrong and inaccurate training which blocks and hinders the way of development and advancement of that maturity and the outflow of that energy and ability. The potential energy of running and organizing a life is present in us, and its activation too is at the time of puberty. But at times, we do not provide the ground for its progress, and instead, hinder the blooming and development of it by wrong and inappropriate training.

“When parents do not allow their children to have their works done independently by themselves and do not permit them any sort of responsibility during the shape-taking period of their personalities, or belittle and humiliate them and reprimand them with titles such as inefficient and incapable, it is quite clear that these young people cannot manage themselves in their youth; and cannot even do so in their middle and old ages!” He said: “Anyway, what can be done now?

Now that we observe that the young do not have the energy and readiness to manage their lives, is it correct that they marry and fail in managing their lives?” I said: “The call of the sexual and spouse-demanding instinct must not remain unanswered.