(9) The Prophet (Pbuh) used to say in his prayers to God...

(9) The Prophet (Pbuh) used to say in his prayers to God: I seek refuge in Thee from a child who orders me around instead of being obedient; from the property which goes to waste without giving any profit; and from a woman who makes me old too fast due to her stupidity and bad behaviour; and from a friend who is deceitful.

(10) The Prophet (Pbuh) said: The worst of your women are the ones who are sterile; filthy; stubborn; disobedient; disgusted by the family, and dear to themselves; disobedient to the husband and submissive to others. (11) He also said: Three things have a bad omen: a woman, a quadruped and a house. A woman’s bad omen is in her nuptial gift and sterility. (12) He also said: A bad woman is the worst thing.

(13) The Commander of the Faithful (Imam Ali) stated: The worst wife is a woman who is not complaisant. (14) The Prophet (Pbuh) said: Should I not introduce the worst women?

Those who are not respectable in their own family; who are haughty to their husbands; who are sterile; who are malicious; who do not stop doing evil deeds; who adorn themselves in the absence of their husbands, and do not adorn themselves in his presence; who are disobedient to their husbands, and do not please them in their own privacy; who do not accept their husband’s apology and do not forgive them. (15) How to Choose a Spouse?

Marriage is my tradition, and whoever does not long for my tradition is not of my nation. (16) The Evil-Doer is Deprived of God’s Mercy In a very important tradition by the noble Prophet of Islam, it is stated in Arabic “Al-Naqess Melown” which means “The evil-doer is denied God’s Mercy.” Undoubtedly, the Arabic term “Naqess” in this tradition does not carry its usual meaning. It does not refer to someone without eyes, a hand, a foot or having any other type of congenital deformity.

Here it refers to one who has not taken steps to attain wisdom, acquire good habits or adorn himself/herself with beneficial actions and does not attend to himself/herself by means other than eating, sleeping and lust. In fact, man has the potential to realize all the facts and attain full perfection. He should try to do so. He should constantly strive to remove his mental, spiritual and inward flaws. He should avoid listlessness.

If he does not try to eliminate his imperfections, then he will be spoiled just as unpalatable water does. He will be damned and deprived of God’s Mercy.