The real test of the parents begins when the children enter...

The real test of the parents begins when the children enter the age of youth because now the chances of getting distracted (harassed) are even greater. An Example, there was a very good boy who had a very good character and when the parents were asked to arrange the marriage of the boy the parents thought it funny that the boy should be married at such a young age.

After two years the same boy who was of a very good character and who used to attend the regular Majalis of Muharram was found to have run away with a European girl. The parents still think of him to be little baby. All the cause of these problems is the narrow-mindedness and the following of customs, which are against reality and intellect.

Secondly, the parents profess (affirm) great demands and conditions for the marriage of their sons and daughters, which is wrong and against the teachings of Islam. The only condition, that Islam holds is that the person should be modest in character, and God-fearing. Once a man asked Imam Hassan (AS) if his daughter had grown old enough to get married but he could not find any suitable proposal for her.

At this, the Imam asked as to what was the reason and what were his conditions and the man opened a list of his conditions at which the Imam said that he was wrong because the only thing which should be seen in a man should have fear of God (piety). Moreover, the Imam gave a logical explanation by saying that, “When the daughter would get married to a man who is fearful of God, then even if he would not like the girl because of some of her habits.

If he is fearful of God then he would not torture your daughter. On the other hand, if he had everything which you demanded but was not God-fearing then he would torture your daughter if he would not like your daughter. Divorce has become a business and a fashion in the west, while this act is condemned and looked down upon in eastern countries like India and Pakistan.

We find many examples where women get married to a Millionaire and then get divorced to secure money, and then they get married to another man and get divorced to secure money. Thus, it is a business and moneymaking profession for many women, because these practices are not condemned in these countries. Unfortunately, our Muslim families are becoming a victim of the curse of divorce too, and we find many cases in which thousands of dollars are been spent on divorces.