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Anyhow, the physical sexual equivalence and equity of the boy and the girl must definitely be taken into consideration while selecting spouses. One of the two should not be strongly built, hot and fervent and the other a weak, withered, and frigid one. Instead, they must be physically and sexually balanced counterparts, so that they are able to satisfy and saturate each other.

Moreover, it is necessary for the spouse to acquire the required information in these matters, to get information from those who are informed and seek help and advice if confronted with a difficulty. ATTENTION Nervous and psychological ailments are amongst the basic causes of sexual weaknesses.

The trace of these ailments is definitely present in all the modes of sexual weakness and inability, such as hasty and immature discharge, imperfect sexual intercourse and the inability of satisfying the spouse. These diseases must be treated by expert psychologists and psychiatrists. This topic is quite vast and has a broad spectrum and needs detailed discussion so at present we will not enter into it.

6- EQUALITY OF BEAUTY Attention to the harmony in the beauty of the face and figure between the two spouses is also necessary. If one of the two is beautiful, handsome and proportionately figured and the other one is ugly and badly featured and figured, there is a probability of displeasure and difficulty for both. Spiritual difficulty and a sense of sexual deprivation, frustration, deviation, immodesty, and depression for the beautiful one would exist.

Please take into what has been described about the sixth attribute (beauty) previously in this chapter. 7- EQUALITY IN AGE A balance and equity of ages must also be considered in the selection of a spouse. The difference in the age of sexual puberty in males and females is a natural phenomenon. Boys generally attain puberty four years after the girls.

The equity and matching of the ages of the boys and the girl relate to the difference of age, not the uniformity of it since this difference has been placed in their creation. Of course, observing a difference of four years in age is not obligatory, instead, it is better if it is there. This quality should be added to the total sum of attributes for consideration and contemplation.

It is possible that the age of the girl is not less than the boy (to this extent), but she may have other peculiarities and distinctions to compensate for the shortage.