Compliance with Husbands Wives are recommended to encompass...

Compliance with Husbands Wives are recommended to encompass their husbands with nice sociability, pleasant attention, and kind compliance by means of observing their affairs, securing means of their physical and mental tranquility, and caring for the family members. By doing so, the wives will certainly be dear and loved by the husbands. Besides, the wives will become an exemplary model and the sources of high moral standards to the children as well.

The most significant form of the wives’ compliance with their husbands is to avoid exhausting them by expensive charges that injure their economical capacities. This causes confusion to the husbands who, subsequently, begin to have an aversion to their wives. Imam Kadhim (PBUH) said: Jihad of women is their compliance with their husbands. The wives good behavior and compliance with their husbands raise their spirits and supply them with huge physical and mental energies.

The wives quarrelsomeness and disobedience, on the other hand, enfeeble the husbands entities and bring to them senility earlier. Let us now listen to the following words of a wise Bedouin mother who provides some instructions to her daughter on her wedding night: Daughter, you will very soon leave the house in which you came to this world and the nest in which you grew up to join a nest that you have not known yet, and a companion with whom you have not familiarized yourself yet.

Thus, you should behave as his bondmaid, so that he will behave as your slave. Observe for him the following ten points: The first and second are that you should live with him with satisfaction and associate with him with obedience. The third and fourth are that you should observe the places where his eye and nose notice. Hence, he should not see anything ugly and should not smell anything bad from you. The fifth and sixth are that you should observe the times of his sleep and food.

Continuous feelings of hunger arouse fiery and continuous disturbance of sleep arouses rage. The seventh and eighth are that you should observe his wealth and respect his family. To observe his wealth is to opt for moderation, and to respect his family can be achieved through good management. The ninth and tenth are that you should avoid disobeying his orders and divulging his secrets.

You will certainly arouse his malice against you if you disobey him, and you will certainly expose yourself to his unexpected punishment if you divulge his secrets.