The man said that they were Assyrian Christians...

The man said that they were Assyrian Christians, and they would only wed their daughter to him if he accepted Christianity. The young fellow who had fallen madly in love with that beautiful girl did not choose the best match and let lust and beauty be the reasons for his marriage. He accepted her father’s condition and abandoned Islam, but on the wedding day, he fell down the stairs and died.

Islamic and Humane Conditions in Choosing a Spouse 1- Respectable families should provide the means for the young man and woman to meet each other before marriage. It is not necessary to wed them to make them Mahram (lawful to see each other) for this purpose. This has been allowed by Islam and is considered legitimate in Islamic jurisprudence. They must see each other, so that they can recognize each others’ good characteristics or apparent defects, and then decide.

This will also block the way for future claims. Of course, this visit should be with the intention of getting married and deciding whether or not to finalize the marriage. It should be void of sin.

Please notice the traditions in this regard: The Prophet (s.a.w.a) told Mughayrah, the son of Shua’ba who had married a woman: “Had you looked at her before you got married, there was more hope for you to get along with her.” (7) Muhammad ibn Muslim said that he asked Imam Baqir (a.s): “Does a man who wants to get married have the right to look at the woman?” He answered: “Yes of course.

He wants to purchase with the highest price, yet how can he not look?” (8) Hassan Sary said: I asked Imam Sadiq (a.s): “Is it permissible for the man to take a good look at a woman before he marries her? Can he look at her face and the back of her head?” He answered: “Yes.