He knows that he is worthy of being loved...

He knows that he is worthy of being loved, and that is a great boost to his self-esteem. 3. He can form better relationships with others. A loving relationship with the parents makes the child a kinder, more loving person. Lack of love hardens the heart, and he could become less prone to showing love for others. 4. Has a positive outlook on life. A child who is loved looks at the world with enthusiasm He will be eager to try and experience new things.

A loveless home produces a negative outlook, in which the natural curiosity and interest in life are deadened. 5. The child will be more responsive to what parents tell him. Reproach and scolding become bearable when he knows he is loved. Parental orders are followed with more enthusiasm. Letting the child know he is loved It goes without saying that most parents love their children dearly. It is a natural instinct placed by the Almighty into the heart of all parents.

This love for children is a sign of the wisdom of Allah, for without it no parent would have borne all the pains and troubles of raising a child. However, many parents think that children know, without being told, that their parents love them. They do not realize that children need to be reassured constantly. The effects of love must be evident in the speech and behaviour of the parents.

Children do not have the wisdom and insight of adults to realize that even punishments and reproaches are signs of love. They often perceive the actions of the parents as proof of the lack of love. It is thus very important to display love to the child, or at least inform him about it in subtle ways. The display of love varies with the age and level of the child. It is most important at a very young age when children need to be cuddled and hugged.

For a baby, a physical display of love is necessary for positive growth and development. All through the toddler years, physical affection remains the most prominent way of displaying love. As the child grows, this changes to less direct ways of showing affection. The occasional physical touch is still necessary but is not the main way of showing love. Now the child has various needs and desires.

To be considerate of his desires, talking to him constantly, reading to him, taking interest in his schoolwork etc. are all part of love. Love shows its bright face in the form of a smile, a tender tone, a patient ear, etc. A parent’s full attention tells the child he is loved enough to warrant it.