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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books The Family in Islam Part Three : the Married Couple: Conditions, Rights, and Customs Religion and Morals The noble Prophet has said: ‘If one comes to you whose religion and morals please you then marry them'46. This criterion that the prophet has mentioned is the criterion of common sense also.

Naturally the person must be able to provide for his family if the wife so needs, just as he should not be an invalid particularly with a venereal disease or that, which incapacitates him from fulfilling the sexual needs of the wife. If the behaviour of either of the married couple is not good, the house becomes like a hell, and if one or other of them does not have a code of conduct, which keeps them from wrongdoing then the man, might even be prepared for his wife to become a prostitute.

Religion and morals can be judged from previous behaviour, and as to whether he or she is capable of bearing children can be known from the relatives47 and from certain medical checks. As for beauty, wealth, position, and social status and so on, they are not in the least bit essential (impossible as not everyone is beautiful and wealthy).

As for age, for if the balance of Islam in marrying every widow and widower is looked at then no fault could be found in either comparing age or neglecting to do so although it is probably better to pay attention to this element also. Hence the Qur'anic reference to the People of Heaven as 'equal in age'.48 Hence we still see, even in this age, that this is the custom of many Muslims although it was more prevalent in the past when it was Islamic.

The wearing of the veil for women is also part of the religion as is restraint by men from practising forbidden acts, particularly in this material age with its voracious appetite for lust and seduction. Means of Subsistence There is no doubt that being able to expend to run the household is one of the most important matters of married life. Allah states in the Qur’an: ‘If they are poor then Allah will enrich them from His bounty'.49 This is correct one hundred percent.

This is because the unmarried man does not have the motivation to earn money in the same way that the man who feels a responsibility does. This in addition to the fact that it is a matter from the unseen world as is everything we see in this world; it has its apparent cause and its real cause which is the will of Allah.