Having these three qualities...

Having these three qualities, a man becomes, in the sight of Islam, an ideal competent husband. The Prophet (S) said: “If a man whose morals and religiosity are accepted in your sight proposes to your daughter, you must agree; otherwise, there will come into being widespread idolatry and great evil[^10].” Imam as-Sadiq (a) said: “The well-qualified husband is the chaste who can save good living[^11].” Thus, it is discommended, as an Islamic ruling, to give one’s daughter in marriage to the sinful, alcoholic, effeminate, ill-tempered, and the like individuals whose religiosity and morality are not guaranteed.

The Ideal Wife The ideal wife is the faithful, chaste, highborn, well- mannered, good-looking woman who is well-behaved with her husband. The Prophet (S) said: “The best of your ladies are the fertile, the amiable, the chaste, the proud with her family, the humble with her husband, who adorns herself for her husband, behaves decently with others, listens and carries out her husbands’ instructions, provides herself for him when they are alone, and avoids violating good manners, like men.

The worst of your ladies are the humble with her family and proud against her husband, the barren, the spiteful, who does not care if she does something hideous, adorns herself when her husband is absent, behaves chastely with him when he is present, does not listen and does not carry out his instructions, abstains from providing herself to him when they are alone just like a riding animal that prevents the rider from riding it, does not accept his apologies, and does not forgive his flaws[^12].” “The best women of my umma are the most bright- faced and the askers for the less dowry[^13].” “He who chooses a wife for her beauty only will not have his aim achieved.

As for him who chooses a wife for her wealth only, Allah will leave him with that wealth. Hence, you should choose the religious women for marriage[^14].” “Beware of the green-looking women It is the beautiful women of evil source[^15].” This prophetic tradition warns against marrying the beautiful women whose families are disreputable. Observance of Rights Spouses cannot obtain marital happiness before they apply the law of give and take to themselves through observing each other’s rights.

Considering it as the first cell of society, the Islamic Sharia has paid a great deal of attention to the marital life through regulations and common rights of spouses and special rights of each.