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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books The Art of Social Relations Other Manners The list of social manners, which comprises the 'Art of Social Relations' is a long list we cannot bring up here, but we will make mention some of its components: A- When you borrow a book, do not write anything in it; protect it against loss or damage; return it to its owner with respect and thanks; if anything bad happens to it, pay for it.

B- Try to abide by the laws and guidance fixed inside motorcars, rooms, centers, libraries and market and business centers. C- Ask permission before using anything that does not belong to you. D- Do not delay in replying to letters sent to you, because letters are like greetings. They need a reply, even if you only tell your friend that you have received his letter.

E- Avoid smoking in an indoor place, because hurting others is not good; most especially that inhaling the smoke of a cigarette harms more than the smoker himself - a confirmed medically proven fact. F- It is good to apologize quickly after committing a mistake, no matter how small it is like coming late for an appointment by giving reasonable excuses for it. G- Admonition is the soap of the hearts. Admonish your brother, but not about everything.

Imam Ali al-Hadi (a.s.) wrote a letter to some of his followers saying: "Admonish so-and-so, tell him if Allah means good for someone He admonished him first." Isn't admonition better than backbiting a thousand times? Thirdly: What are the Factors that Destroy Relations? No doubt the art of social relations requires the understanding of two things together: knowing the factors that strengthen the relationship and knowing the factors that destroy and harm it.

This is because knowing the second will help us avoid those things that spoil social relations as it will help us also correct the displeasure of others who don't pay attention to good morals, so as to refrain from anything harmful. In short, each and every one of us will become a mirror for his fellow friend; they are seeing our positive and negative side and we are, also, seeing their positive and negative side.

For the purpose of seeing the real picture, we will present a number of repulsing behavior with the hope that we may preserve our selves against them. 1- The Holy Qur'an makes mention of these in many places and in many terms: A- Mockery: Is ridiculing others thinking that we are better than they, forgetting that it is possible that they are above us in many things.