The Almighty Allah says...

Imam al- Sadiq (a.s) said: اطلب لأخیک عذرا فان لم تجد له عذرا فالتمس له عذرا.- بحار الانوار 75:197 “Seek an excuse for your brother (friend), and if you couldn’t find any excuse for him, seek an excuse (from someone else) for him.” [^1] C) Compliance (with someone’s mood): the bottom line is that we are not living in Paradise. As people look different, they also think and behave differently. We cannot possibly expect everyone to behave the way we are pleased with.

Thus, it is very much recommended in Islam to comply with them as much as possible. It is narrated from the holy Prophet of Islam (S) to have said: امرنی ربی بمداراة الناس کما امرنی بالفرائض.

-الکافی 2:96 “My Lord commanded me to comply with people as much as He commanded me for obligations.” [^2] The term ‘al-Modarat’ in Arabic has two possible roots: if the root of it is درأ (مهموز اللام) then it means to avoid people’s evil (اتقاء شر الناس), but if the root of it is درا (غیر مهموز اللام) then it means tricking a prey to hunt it. It is assumed that by complying with people’s moods we will be able to eventually win their hearts.

In fact, no so-called negative comment can create a problem unless the receiver reciprocates it. It is only then that a family quarrel or a clash between two friends begins. Therefore, if one party supposedly makes a mistake and throws an inappropriate comment at you, unless you take revenge it will die out. Imam ‘Ali (a.s) advised his son Muhammad In Hanafiya: یا بُنی`! الکلام ذَکَر، و الجواب انثی، فاذا اجتمع الزوجان فلابد` من انتاج.

سلیم العِرض من حذر الجوابا و مَن داری الرجال فقد اصابا -وسائل الشیعة 12:220 “My dear son! A statement is a male, and a response to it is a female. When a couple is united then the production is necessary.” [^3] He then poetically said: The one who avoids a (negative) response has kept his honour And whoever complies with people has met the right target. [^1]: Bihar al-Anwar, 75/197 [^2]: Al-Kafi, 2/96 [^3]: Wasa’il ush-Shi’a, 12/220 Previous…