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That recognition was meant for selection and this is for understanding and harmony. 2- Improvement and Training If someone observes a peculiarity in his/her fiancé' which may not be liked by him/her and he/she may want to remove, rectify, or reform it or even create another virtue or condition in him/her, then the engagement period is the best time for such a reformation, change and training.

This is because their mutual relations have not shaped into usual ones and they believe in a particular mutual love and reverence. As a result, their mutual accommodation and the ground fro change, reform and rectification is more positive and level. 3-Enhancement of Love On the basis of the discussion 'love, the pivot of life,' one of the actual and real conditions of prosperity in marital life is love and its ground should be levelled before marriage.

Nevertheless, the engagement duration is the best chance and opportunity for the growth, enhancement, consolidation and strengthening of love. The conduct, conversation and all the practices of the fiancés are effective in increasing or decreasing love. Therefore, the boy and the girl must be very careful and attentive to their practices. And they must not spare any effort to increase love and avoid the love decreasing practices.

4- Development of Hope Regarding One's Future Life Hope too has an important role in the prosperity of common life. Fiancés should not be negligent about strengthening hope in each other's heart by hopeful words, soberness and confidence of conduct. 5- Laying the Foundation Of Independence In Future Life The boy and girl are usually attached and aligned with the parents' life; this alignment should change into independence.

The period of engagement is a suitable chance to lay the foundation of this independence. Fiancés should do the future planning, design the aims and horizons of their future and the ways to reach them. 6- Valuing Each Other's Sentiments and Feelings Fiancés should be careful about each other's sentiments and emotions and value and answer them appropriately.

Some fiancés do not consider it necessary to answer the delicate sentiments and feelings of their fiancés and think this would cause them to become dearer to their fiancés, whereas, on the contrary, the feelings of their fiancés are hurt. As a result, they start nursing a grudge against them and may harm their lives seriously.