Discipline is extended but usually in a loving and guiding manner.

Discipline is extended but usually in a loving and guiding manner. Severe and harsh punishment is not reflected in the statements of these women, nor do they perceive harshness and abuse in discipline as Islamically acceptable. The following response gives an overview of the theory and practice of discipline as interpreted by one woman. +Parents must be loving and kind to their children. In Islam, the slapping, hitting, spanking, or shaking of children is prohibited.

These are forms of abuse that Muslim parents must not use. We have numerous traditions against abuse from the (pbuh) and his holy family (pbut). Because of this, I have tried to verbally explain to our children if they misbehave and demonstrate to them the correct behavior. Children so young cannot be expected to do what is correct and cannot benefit from a spanking because they do not understand it-they only know that they are being hurt.

If the child runs into the street, hold the child by the hand or pick them up and hold them in your arms. Take the child to a safer place and watch them so they do not do it again. Spanking will not deter the child. It will just make him or her angry and then they will become sneaky, trying to do things when the parents are not watching. My husband discusses the events that sometimes occur and the actions of our children.

He points out their mistakes in judgment because he loves them and wants them to learn how to do what is right whenever they are presented with a similar situation in the future. He wants them to learn that they are responsible not only for their actions but also for the consequences of actions. I also discuss problems with our children; however, the two of us never reprimand our child at the same time.

If one of us is discussing, the other one will stay silent because we do not want to gang up on him. Then we hug him and comfort him, reminding him that criticism of his action was done in love and we want only the best for him; that he should learn from his mistake and must not repeat the behavior. Of course, we forgive our children's mistakes and we do not keep talking about it over and over again. Parents should not constantly pick on their children.

Children need to feel safe in their homes and not be nervous about everything they do. Some children may be more sensitive. than others and cannot accept criticism very well. They may need extra praise for their achievements to assure them that their parents love them.