Some ignorant parents not only tell lies but also encourage...

Some ignorant parents not only tell lies but also encourage their children too to tell lies for obtaining some momentary benefit. The father remaining at home tells his son to tell a visitor that he is not home. When a child misses school the parent asks him to tell the teacher that he was not well. Thus the habit of malingering is encouraged. There are hundreds of lies that are traded around the houses every day!

Such parents are doing a grave injustice to their innocent and impressionable children. Telling lies is a sin and teaching children to lie is a greater sin! Therefore, the parents who wish their children to be truthful have no other way than being truthful themselves. It is just leading by example! Russell writes: If you wish that your children dont get into lying habit, then the only method is to always tell the truth in their presence.

[1] I wish Russell had said, Adopt truthfulness in the presence of children as also with everyone else! The childs nature is affected with all falsehood, even if it is hidden. Imam Sadiq says: Invite people to good without use of your tongue. People should see your piety, diligence, prayer and good deeds that are a role model for them. [2] Second Fact: The child by nature does not lie. His natural instinct urges him to uphold the truth. He needs a very strong reason to tell a falsehood.

📌If the parents get to the depth of the reason for the falsehood, and remove these reasons, [1] Dar Tarbiat, Page 148. [2] Usool al-Kafi, Vol. 2, Page 78. the child will become truthful. One reason that makes a child lie is the fear of the parents admonishment. When you ask him if he had broken the windowpane, he would say, No! Remember, the reason for the child uttering a falsehood is his fear of the parents. Then he shifts the responsibility of the broken glass pane to some other person.

If the parents are clever and thoughtful, the reason for the child telling lies will never be there. There can always the possibility that the window glass was broken unintentionally. Then there is no reason to reprimand the child. The parents need to tell the child softly to be more careful in the future. In these circumstances the child doesnt deserve to be reprimanded or beaten that it takes shelter behind lies.

Even if he has broken the window- pane and is blatantly denying the act, severe punishment is not the solution to the problem. The child cannot be reformed through beating and punishment alone.

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