The view of the psychologists is that at many stages the child...

The view of the psychologists is that at many stages the child, on account of the happenings in its environment, might get the rudiments of feeling of fear, restlessness, lack of confidence, shame, loneliness, sadness and even suicidal tendencies. If you want to satisfy the sense of belonging of the child properly, then always try to be its supporter. When it is hungry, feed it. Provide means of comfort to it. If the child has any discomfort or pain, try to ameliorate it.

Keep his program of sleep and feed in control in such a way that it has no inconvenience. Avoid beating the child. The child doesnt know anything other than its immediate needs. It only trusts an Unknown Power and it cries seeking the help of that Power. Dont take out your ire on the child by beating it. The Holy Prophet says: Do not beat the babies when they cry, because when a child under the age of four months cries, it is bearing witness to the Unity of Allah.

[1] Be a supporter of the child under all circumstances, even if you are unable to perform a task for him, try to treat him with love and care. If the child is uncomfortable, try to remove the cause of the discomfort. Never reprimand the child and threaten him that you would leave him alone and go away. Doing such acts might affect the childs psychology. The child expects to be the cynosure of the eyes of the parents. If they dont show affection to the child, it will be very upset.

The child always tries to get the love and affection of the parents. Some parents make a wrong use of this tendency and tell him that if he did not obey them, they would not love him. They should avoid using this pretence. These subterfuges might ultimately affect the psyche of the child in stages. If the child cries, it can also be to attract the attention of the parents. The parents should handle the child with patience and thoughtfulness.

If the child is admonished or beaten when it cries, it might quieten for the moment, but this will be the quietness of disappointment which might have dangerous impact on its mind. The child is always happy with the parents around and is uncomfortable when they are away. The parents should never talk about their death in the hearing of the child that will be very upsetting and disturbing for him. A sick parent should not mention possibility of his death in the [1] Bihar al-Anwar, Vol.

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