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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books Child Psychology 23- Favouring Boys Is Wronging Girls Among Children The parents had planned to go on a long holiday, the first in a decade, after the eldest son got married. The son got married but the holiday did not materialize.

The daughter-in-Iaw, though intelligent and fairly educated, did not demonstrate such a commanding personality with fair degrees of self-confidence as would enable her to take care of the house and exercise control over the younger brothers of the husband during the absence of their parents. The daughter-in-Iaw herself doubted her ability to manage.

She thought it wise and safe to avoid the responsibility though she sadly knew that she was becoming the cause for the parents of the house to miss their long anticipated holiday. Her husband too was extremely disappointed. If the daughter-in-law lacked self-confidence it is because she, as a daughter a daughter in her family, was groomed and prepared that way through parental neglect or lack of foresight or both owing to ignorance on the part of her father.

There is now cost… a cost of her respect in the eyes of her parent-in-laws or even worse… her happiness of matrimony. The father in his relation and conduct with his two children, the daughter the elder and son the younger, he had more time for the son. They had topics of common interest to talk. The main topic was sports and in the course of discussion other topics, like the son's school and his friends.

the son's aspirations then crept in during the father's leisure time and at meals, often in the presence of the daughter. The Lesser Child. The daughter, though elder of the two, felt that she was the lesser child of the two. The son in his relation with his father felt himself like an adult, sharing the importance of the father in the family, and thus he had the advantage of a spring-board for developing self-confidence and his independently distinct personality.

On the other hand, the daughter was often driven to seeking comfort in the company of her mother. She found herself sharing with her mother the common obedience not only to the father but also to the son, who saw himself as the substitute of the father in the moments of his absence at home. She too vied for self-importance, self- respect and self-confidence but these were not let coming her way.

The imbalanced treatment of daughters in favour of sons, as they are raised together, is not uncommon in families.