parents should not commit the mistake of laughing off the...

parents should not commit the mistake of laughing off the child's fanciful dreams as a normal passage of a phase of childhood. if the child continues with the luxury of fantasy as he grows up or is found gaining more and more comfort by taking a refuge in his world of fantasy. The child will be aspiring for more than what is practical or indeed. praise-worthy, within his "normal" ability. Upon failing to advance towards his fanciful aspirations.

he will create yet one more world of his own for refuge and that is the one of self-pity. Realm of Reasoning. Children should be seen making lesser and lesser visitations to their world of fantasies and more and more to the realm of reasoning as they grow up and begin to realise that when facts cannot be changed. the attitude has to be changed. A refuge in a world of fantasy while waiting for the facts to change is an unhealthy trait. Sadly. there are those among children who.

instead of growing out of the fantasy- visitation grow up with the habit of taking a refuge in fanciful planning devoid of reasoning. This is because they would not want to accept facts over which they have no control nor change their attitude over which they have control. However. this weakness varies in degrees from person to person. There was this guest who got busy pouring out his frustration to the host at the Arrival Reception of the Airport.

He said he was late in checking out because there were the health. immigration and customs procedures to comply with. And that was not all. There were the baggage to identify and collect! He did not say that all other passengers were doing the same and many were still behind in the queue. He had a cause for the frustration because he had fancied coming across different facts or changing them, at least for himself in his travel.

No person need be a victim of having to create a fanciful substitute world of his own to overcome the vicissitudes of the real world, and fail worse. What is required is that he is impressed since his childhood that there is a better and eternal world to look forward to much better than the human fantasy can conjure or conceive. He will understand the purpose of this transient world and accept that it is attendant with test, tribulation and tears.

He will bring himself much nearer to knowing Islam and transit himself with a comfortable conviction. He will be a contented man with his priorities right whatever the reality on the ground may confront him.