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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books Raising Children Lesson 4: A Child’s need for Love The need to be loved is exceptionally strong in all human beings. From childhood to old age, humans want to be loved by those around them. Love connects people in the strongest of ways. It produces care and concern, without which no one would take the responsibility of looking after others. Love makes the difficulties of life bearable, and helps ease the struggles of life.
The love given to a child is more important than any material goods the family can provide. Life cannot just run on cold and hard rules. The warmth of love is necessary to infuse spirit and joy in life. A home without love, however orderly and organized, has not fulfilled its true purpose. A family is not just a micro-organization where the needs of members are met. This could be done by a state run facility.
A family’s outstanding characteristic is that members love one another, and this emotion binds them together. Love or the lack of it has a profound effect on the lives of children. Their mental capabilities, their fluency of speech, their observations and deductions on life, are all affected by it. That is why Islam emphasizes the display of love to one’s family. The Holy Prophet (S) loved his grandsons dearly, and often showed great affection to them in public.
When Husayn (a) got on his back while he was in sajdah , the Holy Prophet (S) prolonged his sajdah . He could not bear to see his grandsons cry, or get hurt. He encouraged his companions to show affection to their children. Effects of Love A child who knows he is loved has a great head start on life. He is happier and calmer. A child who is loved is at peace with the world, and is able to bear disappointments better. Without love, a child’s world is bleak.
Such a child often resorts to misbehavior to get attention. He is more confident of himself. He knows that he is worthy of being loved, and that is a great boost to his self-esteem. He can form better relationships with others. A loving relationship with the parents makes the child a kinder, more loving person. Lack of love hardens the heart, and he could become less prone to showing love for others. Has a positive outlook on life.
A child who is loved looks at the world with enthusiasm He will be eager to try and experience new things. A loveless home produces a negative outlook, in which the natural curiosity and interest in life is deadened.