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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books Raising Children Lesson 6: Discipline and Control It is the right of every child to be disciplined by wise and reasonable parents. A parent uses control and discipline to guide the child. Human beings by nature, tend to lean towards evil. Allah says in the Holy Qur’an: Surely the soul is wont to command (towards) evil except, such as my Lord has mercy on **. (12:53)** Without discipline human beings are prone to wrongdoing,.

A child is especially vulnerable to such tendencies for he lacks the wisdom and maturity of an adult. It is easier and more pleasant to follow the dictates of the soul. To follow what is right, morally and logically, requires a firm will. This does not come automatically to a child, but can be developed through discipline. A good home has certain rules which children must follow. Children feel better when they know they are expected to follow certain guidelines in their daily life.

Not only does life become more organized, but they are also freed from the burden of making decisions for themselves when not really in a position to do so. Although they may outwardly resent it, all children need some discipline to feel secure in life. Discipline and control in Islam is not equal to dictatorship. Good parents take into consideration the age and understanding of the child, his circumstances, and other relative factors. Rules are then made accordingly.

Sometimes the child’s wishes are considered and a compromise is made. There is certain flexibility rather than rigid adherence to the rules. However there is no doubt that Islam expects parents to remain in control, to make sure the children follow certain etiquette in behavior rather than a chaotic do-as-you-please attitude. Advantages of Discipline Safety from physical and moral danger A child with no discipline will be free to do whatever he wishes.

At a young age this may often result in physical harm. As he grows, a lax attitude towards his behavior and associations may result in moral dangers. Discipline and control helps ensure the child does not stray into unwanted and unseemly territory. Avoids wrong influences A child is often naive, and believes what others tell him, especially his peers.

A child without control may have the wrong friends, get involved in the wrong activities, and generally begin to have very different morals and values from the parents.