Hence, to have an independent judgment, it is not sufficient...

Hence, to have an independent judgment, it is not sufficient to rely only on the manifestation of tradition it is a must to consider the conditions of that time and the basis of the tradition. At times a tradition has been quoted at the time of taqiyyah (concealing one’s beliefs at a time of eminent danger) and the command seemed rational expressing the view of the narrator.

The Imam’s (P) way of treatment is not restricted to his words and deeds but also depends on his behavior, saying and taking of a stand. The manner of treatment of the Infallibles (P) towards their wives, daughters and sons depended upon their capabilities and personalities. The way of treatment of Imam Ali (P) towards Her Eminence Zahra (P) was different from that towards his other wives the way of treatment is also another aspect that must be considered beside the content of saying.

According to the remarks of the Chief of the Faithful (P) what are the basic factors effective on the stability of marital life? From His Holiness Ali’s (P) point of view the factors effective on the stability and strengthening of the family are two, as follows: The factors related to spouse selection The factors related to the time after start of marital life. It points out that events should be dealt with foresight. The wife and the husband must be equal and match to each other.

The first condition for wife and the husband is being of an equal standing, that is, being spouses. It is not the random selections that can produce stability in our marital life. The wife and husband must consider if they have interests to share or not. Psychologists believe that there are so many individual differences among people this may not be so in all cases if there is a general criteria. Being matched may mean two people on the same level.

Being match to each other differs from person to person and depending on the occasion. Accordingly, the Holy Prophet (P) had special concern for Her Eminence Fatimah (P) more than his other daughters. He states regarding the marriage of Her Eminence Fatimah (P): “I have no authority on her marriage”. Imam Sadiq (P) states: “If Ali did not exist, a husband matching Her Eminence Fatimah (P) would never be found from the time of Adam until the Judgment Day”.

Sharing the same belief and religion is one of the bases of matching however; unfortunately it is ignored at present.