It may be that the woman is too difficult to live with...

It may be that the woman is too difficult to live with because she does not attend to the needs of the family, or the man does not abide by the conditions which he has accepted at the time of the wedding, in which case the woman can ask for a divorce. If these conditions exist, the couple should respectfully get divorced without committing any sins. The families should not get involved, or commit any sins. I must mention two great sins which the families may commit early after divorce.

Hopefully, by paying close attention to divine issues, sins will be avoided. Gossip The Quran states: Nor speak ill of each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother?

Nay, ye would abhor it...[Holy Quran: Hujurat: 49:12] The Prophet (Pbuh) said: Gossip will ruin a Muslim's religion faster than food gets digested in his stomach [Vasa'il, v.72, p.152] He also said: I admonish you against gossiping as it is worse than fornication [Bihar al-Anwar , V.75, p.222] The Prophet (Pbuh) said: On the Night of Ascension, I saw some people who were peeling off their skin of their face with their nails, I asked Gabriel who they were. He said they are the ones who gossiped.

[Mizan al-Hikmat, v.7, pp.332-333]. The Prophet (Pbuh) said: God has forbidden gossiping, as he has forbidden harming a Muslim's property or life. [Ibid].

The Commander of the Faithful said: Gossiping is a sign of hypocrisy.[Ibid] He also said: Gossiping about the good people is one of the most wicked acts.[Ibid] The seventh Imam said: One who gossips about his believing brothers is deprived of God’s Mercy [Bihar al-Anwar , V.77, p.117] The Master of the Martyrs (Imam Husayn) told a man who was gossiping: Protect yourself from gossip as it is the food for the dogs in the Hell [Bihar al-Anwar , v.78, p.117].

In fact, there is no reason to gossip about a lustful, oppressive ruler or one who is already an evil-doer. [Bihar al-Anwar , V.75, p.253] The Commander of the Faithful has said: One who listens to another who gossips is similar to one who gossips [Mizan al-Hikmat , V.7, p.352]. There is also a tradition from the Prophet (Pbuh) related to not listening to gossip: God will protect whoever defends the honor of his Muslim brothers in front of one who gossips, from the Fire of Hell.

[Mizan al-Hikmat, v.7, p.353]. Therefore the only thing that must be discussed in a divorce is divorce and nothing else. There should be no unjust talk since this will only cause you to go to Hell.