A person’s dignity and respect are the same as his physical flesh.
A person’s dignity and respect are the same as his physical flesh. Speaking bad words about a person behind his back and causing harm to his character or disrespecting him is equivalent to eating his flesh. Since this person is not present in the gathering and is unable to defend himself against these cowardly attacks, it is said that he is dead and has been attacked upon in such a state.
It is possible that in order to explain the fourth point, Amir al-Mu’minin `Ali ibn Abi Talib (peace be upon him) referred to the person who back-bites and speaks ill of others behind their back as being lowly and weak (since they are attacking a person who does not have the ability to defend himself) when he said: أَلْغِيْبَةُ جَهْدُ الْعٌاجِزِ “Backbiting another person is (equivalent) to fighting a person who cannot defend himself.” [^1] The Motives that Lead to Backbiting One of the reasons and motives of a person backbiting is jealousy and envy that one has which makes him speak ill of another person.
It is the person’s position and status that are upsetting him and through this act (of speaking ill of him) he wishes to lower the status and worth of him or her.
In his speech to Mufaddhal ibn `Umar, Imam Ja`far ibn Muhammad as-Sadiq (peace be upon him) has referred to this motive as follows: مَنْ رَوَى عَلى مُؤْمِنٍ رِوٌايَةً يُرِيدُ بِهٌا شَيْنَهُ وَ هَدْمَ مُرُوؤَتَهُ لِيُسْقِطَهُ مِنْ أَعْيُنِ النٌّاسِ أَخْرَجَهُ اللٌّهُ مِنْ وِلاٌيَتِهِ إِلـى وِلاٌيِةِ الشَّيْطٌانِ “A person who talks about a believer’s conduct hoping that through this act, he is able to lower the other person’s value and worth in the eyes of others will be taken out of the guardianship of Allah and will be placed in the guardianship of the Shaitan.” [^2] In this hadith, Imam Ja`far as-Sadiq (peace be upon him) has mentioned one of the motives behind backbiting which is the jealousy, envy and the status that a person may feel for another person within the society.
Sometimes however, feelings such as anger, rage, pride and conceit also compel a person towards this negative, ethical trait. In another hadith, it has first been mentioned that envy and then anger lead a person towards backbiting.