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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech Social Interaction And Mingling Social Interaction and mingling-العشرة والخلطه ocial interaction with people of merits is enlivening for the hearts. 1ـ مُعاشَرَةُ ذَوِي الفَضائِلِ حَياةُ القُلُوبِ. Let not your family or those whom you love be the most miserable of people because of you. 2ـ لايَكُنْ أهْلُكَ وذُو وُدِّكَ (ذُوُوكَ)أشْقَى النّاسِ بِكَ.

Do not alienate a person whose separation will harm you. 3ـ لاتُوحِشَنَّ امْرَءً يَسُوءُكَ فِراقُهُ. The one who mingles with people is afflicted by the evil associate and the hypocrisy of the enemy. 4ـ يُبْتَلى مُخالِطُ النّاسِ بِقَرينِ السُّوءِ، ومداجاةِ العَدُوِّ. Preserve [the respect of others] and your respect will be preserved. 5ـ أبْقِ يُبْقَ عَلَيْكَ. Mix sternness with gentleness, and be gentle as long as gentleness is more befitting.

6ـ اِخْلِطِ الشِدَّةَ بِرِفْق، وارْفُقْ ما كانَ الرِّفْقُ أوْفَقَ. Imbibe your heart with mercy for all the people and kindness towards them, and do not oppress them or be [like] a sword over them. 7ـ أَشْعِرْ قَلْبَكَ الرَّحْمَةَ لَجَميعِ النّاسِ والإحْسانِ إلَيْهِمْ، وَلاتُنِلْهُمْ حَيْفاً، وَلاتَـكُنْ عَلَيْهِمْ سَيْفاً.

Remember you brother who is absent in the same way that which you would like him to remember you [in your absence] and keep away from what he dislikes; and disregard from him that which you would like him to disregard from you. 8 ـ أُذْكُرْ أخاكَ إذا غابَ بِالَّذي تُحِبُّ أنْ يَذْكُرَكَ بِهِ وإيّاكَ وَما يَكْرَهُ، وَدَعْهُ مِمّا تُحِبُّ أنْ يَدَعَكَ مِنْهُ. Loathe from yourself what you loathe from others and like for people what you like for yourself.

9ـ إسْتَقْبِـحْ مِنْ نَفْسِكَ ما تَسْتَقْبِحُهُ مِنْ غَيْرِكَ، وارْضَ لِلنّاسِ بِما تَرْضاهُ لِنَفْسِكَ. Reduced mingling preserves religion and relieves one from having to associate with wicked people. 10ـ قِلَّةُ الخُلْطَةِ تَصُونُ الدّينَ، وتُريحُ مِنْ مُقارَنَةِ الأشْرارِ. Be equitable to people over yourself, your family, your near ones and those from whom you desire something, and be just with both enemy and friend.

11ـ أنْصِفِ النّاسَ مِنْ نَفْسِكَ، وأهْلِكَ، وَخاصَّتِكَ، ومَنْ لَكَ فيهِ هَوًى، وأعْدِلْ فِي العَدُوِّ والصَّدِيقِ. Be friendly with the one who is friendly with you, accept the excuse of the one who seeks your pardon and do good to the one who wrongs you. 12ـ أجْمِلْ إدْلالَ مَنْ أدَلَّ عَلَيْكَ، واقْبَلْ عُذْرَ مَنِ اعْتَذَرَ إلَيْكَ، وأحْسِنْ إلى مَنْ أساءَ إلَيْكَ.