Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech Secret And Confidential Discussions Secret And Confidential Discussions السّـرُّ والنّجوى Protect your affair and do not give away your secret in marriage to whoever proposes! 1ـ اِحْفَظْ أمْرَكَ، ولا تُنْكِحْ خاطِباً سِرَّكَ. Keep your secret to yourself and neither entrust it to a judicious one who may err nor to an ignorant one who may betray [your trust].
2ـ اِنْفَرِدْ بِسِرِّكَ، وَلا تُودِعْهُ حازِماً فَيَزِلَّ، ولاجاهِلاً فَيَخُونَ. The best secret discussion is that which is founded on religion and God-wariness, and is based on following the path of guidance and opposing vain desires. 3ـ أفْضَلُ النَّجْوى، ماكانَ علَى الدّينِ والتُّقى، وأسْفَرَ عَنِ اتِّباعِ الهُدى، ومُخالَفَةِ الهَوى. Man is more protective of his secret. 4ـ اَلمَرْءُ أحْفَظُ لِسِـرِّهِ. Divulging [secrets] is the trait of outsiders [not that of believing Muslims].
5ـ اَلإذاعَةُ شيمَةُ الأغْيارِ. Divulging the secret that has been entrusted to you is a [form of] betrayal. 6ـ إذاعَةُ سِرّ أُودِعْتَهُ غَدْرٌ. Three people are not to be trusted with a secret: the woman, the telltale and the fool. 7ـ ثَلاثٌ لا يُسْتَوْدَعْنَ سِرّاً: المَرْأةُ، والنَّمّامُ،وَ الأحمَقُ. Your secret is a source of happiness for you if you conceal it but if you divulge it, it is your destruction. 8ـ سِرُّكَ سُرُورُكَ إنْ كَتَمْتَهُ وإنْ أذَعْتَهُ كانَ ثُبُوركَ.
He who divulges his secrets does not remain safe. 9ـ لا يَسْلَمُ مَنْ أذاعَ سِرَّهُ. Your secret is your prisoner but if you divulge it, you become its prisoner. 10ـ سِرُّكَ أسيرُكَ فَإنْ أفْشَيْتَهُ صِرْتَ أسيرَهُ. Be stingy with your secrets and do not divulge the secret that has been entrusted to you, for indeed divulging [it] is betrayal. 11ـ كُنْ بِأسْرارِكَ بَخيلاً، وَلا تُذِعْ سِرّاً أُودِعْتَهُ، فَإنَّ الإذاعَةَ خِيانَةٌ.
Every time the keepers of secrets increase, [chances of] its divulgence becomes greater. 12ـ كُلَّما كَثُرَ خُزّانُ الأسْرارِ كَثُرَ ضِياعُها. One who conceals the secret [that has been entrusted to him] is loyal and trustworthy. 13ـ كاتِمُ السِّـرِّ وَفيٌّ أمينٌ. If a person were to use his intellect, he would protect his secret from the one who has revealed [another’s secret] to him and would not inform anyone of it.
14ـ لَوْ عَقَلَ المَرْءُ عَقْلَهُ لأحْرَزَ سِـرَّهُ عَمَّنْ أفْشاهُ إلَيْهِ ولَمْ يُطْلِعْ أحَداً علَيهِ. One who reveals your secret has ruined your affair.