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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books Parents and Children Essential Differences It is compulsory to define the real mean-ings of some concepts and words used in the family's circle in order not to misunderstand them or use them in an opposite way, and also not to intermingle terms thereby the guide -the father or mother - should not think that he/she doesn't breech the right of their children. Even though they make mistakes unintentionally.

1- Obedience and Good Deeds: Many parents talk about the obedience of their children toward them and the necessity of obeying all their commands; this is their responsibility. And they didn't obey such orders, even if it be abnormal or against the law, they term them as sinners and disobedient, even though the Almighty Allah wants children to be obedient to their parents, but he didn't command them to obey them except of those things that doing them is an obedience to Him.

The Almighty Allah said: "And command your Lord has commanded that you shall worship not (any one) but Him, and goodness to parents;…" Holy Qur'an (17:23) Therefore, worship and obedience are for Allah and good manners are for the parents. The word "good deed" is more inclined to the side of good morals rather than the side of necessity, or even there is no place of compulsion in it, because a kind person is the one who does good or the one who is obliged.

Thus, if the parents want to compel one of their children to do something, which is against the law, then it is the right of the children not to obey them, based on the saying of the Almighty Allah: "…and if they (either of them) strive (to force) you to associate (others) with Me (in worship) of which you have no knowledge, then you obey them not;…" Holy Qur'an (29: 8) This is goodness in return for goodness, the parents had done good at the time of childhood, thus, it is the duty of the children to do the same thing in old age.

Therefore, repaying of good - as is well known - is good. It is the duty of the children to repay the goodness of their parents toward them with equal or more than that, even, however, the amount of the children's goodness to their parents can never be compared with that of the parents. This is the saying of the Almighty Allah: "…if either or both of them reach old age with you, utter not unto them (even so much as) "Fie" nor chide them, and speak unto them a generous word.

And lower unto them the wing of humility out of compassion, and say you: 'O My Lord!