Further...
Further, common conventional manners are just another expression of legitimate social commitments that people of a society agree to use as customs; therefore, conformity with these manners means conformity with people themselves and with society. This is in accord with the first aspect of social relations—openness and sociability. Obligatory and Forbidden Commitments Positive and negative implementation of such regulation is found in the details about the superstructure of social relations.
As for the positive aspect, this regulation can be found in fulfillment of promises and covenants, restoration of securities to their owners, participation in funeral ceremonies, presence in congregational prayers and social gatherings, visiting the sick, and like matters that will be discussed in further detail in the second part of this book.
Regarding the negative aspect, application of regulation can be found in threatening others, causing them damage, violating their sanctities, scrutinizing their weaknesses, or spreading corruptive influences among them, which will also be discussed in the second part of this book. Controlling and Steering the Emotions The second constraint is to control one’s emotions, feelings, and passions during involvement in certain events and in responding to the results and consequences of those events.
When observed, this regulation embodies self-perfection in man’s progress towards Almighty Allah. Many traditions, reported from the (‘a), emphasize such regulation as a means of attaining self-perfection.
In two books entitled Man-la-Yahdhuruhul-Faqih and Thawab al-A’mal , Shaykh al-Saduq has reported through a valid chain of authority on the authority of Shu’ayb al-’Aqarqufi that Imam al-Sadiq (‘a) said: مَنْ مَلَكَ نَفْسَهُ إِذَا رَغِبَ وَإِذَا رَهِبَ وَإِذَا اشْتَهَى وَإِذَا غَضِبَ وَإِذَا رَضِيَ حَرَّمَ اللهُ جَسَدَهُ عَلَى النَّارِ. Whoever controls himself when he desires, fears, craves, or becomes angry, Almighty Allah shall ban Hellfire from consuming his body.