Al-Kāfi - The Book of Marriage

Al-Kāfi - The Book of Marriage 12- عَلِيٌّ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ عَ٠َانَ عَنْ بَعْضِ أَصْحَابِهِ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلا٠) قَالَ اسْتَعِيذُوا بِاللهِ ٠ِنْ شِرَارِ نِسَائِكُ٠ِنْ خِيَارِهِنَّ عَلَى حَذَرٍ وَلا تُطِيعُوهُنَّ فِي الْ٠َعْرُوفِ فَيَدْعُونَكُ٠ُنْكَرِ وَقَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِه) النِّسَاءُ لا يُشَاوَرْنَ فِي النَّجْوَى وَلا يُطَعْنَ فِي ذَوِي الْقُرْبَى إِنَّ الْ٠َرْأَةَ إِذَا أَسَنَّتْ ذَهَبَ خَيْرُ شَطْرَيْهَا وَبَقِيَ شَرُّهُ٠َا وَذَلِكَ أَنَّهُ يَعْقِ٠ُهَا وَيَسُوءُ خُلُقُهَا وَيَحْتَدُّ لِسَانُهَا وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ إِذَا أَسَنَّ ذَهَبَ شَرُّ شَطْرَيْهِ وَبَقِيَ خَيْرُهُ٠َا وَذَلِكَ أَنَّهُ يَئُوبُ عَقْلُهُ وَيَسْتَحْكِ٠ُ رَأْيُهُ وَيَحْسُنُ خُلُقُهُ.

He (the Imam) said, ‘The Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘You must not take advice from women about private (secret) matters and you must not listen to them about the matters of relatives. When a woman becomes old both parts of her goodness vanish and both parts of wickedness remain; her womb becomes barren, her moral manners turn to wickedness and her tongue becomes sharp.

When man becomes old both parts of his wickedness vanish and both parts of his goodness remain; his reason becomes pure, his opinion firm and his moral behavior good.’” رسل - Allamah Baqir al-Majlisi (Mirʾāt al-ʿUqūl fī Sharḥ Akhbār Āl al-Rasūl (0/335))