A validation e-mail has been sent to your e-mail address. You will need to follow the instructions in that message in order to gain full access to the site. Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the Islamic College in London and also the Managing Editor of the Journal of Shi'a Islamic Studies. In a temporary marriage with a married man, should I meet his sexual demands even though I haven't received my agreed-upon dowry? Is it fair that he only spends about 3 hours a week with me because of his responsibilities to his first wife and children?, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Since temporary marriage does not have a fixed paradigm for how people live it out in daily life, you have to decide what is fair for you. As a wise person once said, if you have to ask the question, you already know the answer. What is the best way to access and read the story of Prophet Lut (as)?, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... by Shaykh Rizwan Arastu contains a section on him. The book is based on Qur'an and traditional narrations, and is readable. Of course, there are many takes on this story, and you will find ample discussion elsewhere as well. Reading books of tafsir is also a good option. I am a 21-year-old Muslim girl living with my parents. They don't respect my boundaries, and I cannot live with them anymore. Is it okay to ask them to arrange a marriage for me to move out?, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Women have looked to marriage to escape difficult family situations for ages, and it is natural to want to get married at your age. If you choose that route, be sure that the person you marry is a good choice (as much as you can tell) so that you go into a better situation, not a worse situation. Sometimes girls tend towards marrying someone like their father, because he is a familiar model of manhood, and if he has some difficult traits, be sure those are not found in your future husband. Also, my personal advice is, do not tell your future husband that you married him to leave home, because that can make you seem vulnerable or might make him feel unwanted. Rather, just focus on building a life together and the positive aspects of being together. If you can move away for university, study abroad, work, or other opportunities, that may also be an option. Financial independence can give you security and let you marry by choice rather than necessity. In any case, it is good to have some idea what your expected future direction might be - for instance, does your family expect you to marry, do they expect you to work, do they expect you to stay home and keep doing the same thing, etc. It sound like there might not have been much guidance or discussion in this area. If I regularly travel 44 km from Mississauga to attend JCC in Vaughan, both cities within the GTA, do I still need to perform Qasr, or is it exempt due to the routine nature of travel within a single metropolitan region?, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Having lived for a few months in the GTA (Greater Toronto Area), I can confirm that Mississuaga and Vaughan are commonly considered to be part of the same city unit for the purposes of praying and fasting. That is, you do not say qasr prayers or break fast if you go from one to the other. Here is an interesting website addressing the question of qasr prayers in the GTA: The local ulama should also be able to help with any specific questions about travelling questions in the area, since many people have questions about travel prayers! Is it permissible to feel resentment towards one's parents if their reckless behavior is causing constant frustration?, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Although it's more difficult to control feelings than to control actions, it's good to try to let go of resentment as much as possible since it only poisons you and does not help anything. It is better to focus on anything practical you can do that is best for the situation (if there is anything), and if there isn't anything you can do, try to focus on other things. Sometimes as we make our way through life, we get a better understanding of the psychological reasons why parents act in a less than ideal way and can have compassion for that, even if their choices were harmful to themselves, ourselves, or others. How can I go about finding a marriage partner since I do not use matchmaking apps or have relatives to assist with arrangements?, Amina Inloes is originally from th