But an attempt should be made to lessen and reduce this distance to a minimum...

But an attempt should be made to lessen and reduce this distance to a minimum, so that the two spouses are as close to each other as possible. A LESSON-GIVING EXAMPLE Before arriving at the instances and cases of ‘equity’ and ‘compatibility’, I wish to describe a self-witnessed example, closely touched by me. I was present at all its stages, so that the topic will become clear and conspicuous, and the ground for the later subjects is leveled.

Ismail and Safoora were both religious, good-natured and committed to Islamic values and the Islamic revolution, but their views about these issues were different. Ismail had been brought up in a village environment along with its rural culture, rites,and ceremonial specifications and was committed to the peculiarities of his social cradle. Safoora had been bred and brought up in a large city along with its peculiar, typical atmosphere of rites and rituals.

Each of them looked at the world from the window of his and her personal perception and ideas. No spiritual,moral, educational, physical, familial or cultural harmony existed between the two. So much so that their points of view about Islam and the Revolution, to which both were committed were different and a vast (ideological) gap existed between them. A mediator had introduced them for marriage. He did not have any negative intention and did it as a religious duty and for the pleasure of Allah.

But regrettably, he did not have any information about their spiritual, physical and social harmony and congeniality. And so he was unsuccessful in his introduction and mediation and this did not result in a good life for those two. Ismail and Safoora married. And right from the beginning of their joint life difference and conflicts and tussles started taking shape.

Ismail said there were things important to her (Safoora) that did not have any importance for him, and there were things important to him. which did not mean anything to her. Safoora too held the same opinion. Both of them were highly educated with good academic career, but they had a vast difference of opinion on various topics and version of knowledge.

Each one of them had their own particular ideas and styles regarding family linkages, bonds, relations and the visits of guests, which were quite distant from each other.