The more the harmony...

The more the harmony, co-ordination and congeniality of thought, spirit, morality and physique in this compound, the more its strength, enjoyment, fruits, positive consequences, stability and continuance. The less the ration of its consistence, the more life would be unstable, bitter and fruitless. The main cause of the miseries, turbulence and turmoil of family life is due to the lack of co-ordination and proportion between men and women.

Two people who join each other’s company and wish to prolong this company for the whole of their lives and share all matters, taking joint decisions, bringing children into existence, training them and making them reach prosperity must definitely be harmonious, concurrent, and contentious and have reciprocal equity.

Regrettably, in the wake of the spouse selection problem, conventional goodness is usually taken as sufficient , and less attention is paid to the equity and balance between the boy and the girl whereas this is the axis and pivot of the standard of spouse selection. There are only a few people on our society who are completely incapable of marrying and having a spouse.

All boys and girls have the capability and capacity for marriage, but all that needs to be taken into consideration is which girl suits which boy.

These problems that we see all around us for e.g., that such and such a woman has difficulty with her husband and their life is disturbed and in a bad shape, or that such and such a man has conflict with his wife and is offended and annoyed with her and they pass an ‘unwanted’ and ‘undesirable’ life, are due to the fact that mutually proper and suitable spouses were not chosen.

If this had been done, these difficulties, odds, conflicts and family disturbances would not have existed of at least, been minimized. “The persons who, before their marriage, Endeavour to study their spouses and find spouses who are suitable and proportional for them and are conventionally their counterparts, have solved a part of their post marriage difficulties and problems regarding children training.

Otherwise, they save and secure the difficulties which could be solved before the post marriage period.” (2) ATTENTION A hundred percent co-ordination and congeniality is not possible, since every individual has his own mind, spirit, morality and character, specific environment and family and has a certain distance and difference from the other one.