Imam Reza (A.
Imam Reza (A.S.) wrote in reply to a person who had asked him if it was advisable to marry his daughter to a person known for his ill nature, “If he is ill-natured (bad tempered), don’t marry your daughter to him.” [^5] The same will apply where the bride-to-be lacks a good nature. Such a woman, though she may be beautiful and rich, would make the life of her husband miserable. She can never be patient in the difficulties that arise in married life. C.
Compatibility The Prophet (S) gave no recognition to class distinction, but in marriage, he stressed upon compatibility. The marrying partners must be Kufw of each other, so that there are no unnecessary misgivings later.[^6] It is better for a religious woman who is committed to laws and principles to marry a man like herself.
A man questioned the Prophet of Islam (S), “Whom must we marry?” He replied, “The suitable (matches).” “Who are the suitable matches?” The Prophet (S) responded, “Some of the faithfuls are match for others.” [^7] Imam Sadiq (A.S.) said, “An intelligent and wise woman must not be matched except with a sage and wise man.” [^8] D. Decent Family The Messenger of Allah (S) has given great emphasis on taking into consideration a good family background when we intend to marry.
He said, “Marry in the lap of a decent family, since the semen and the genes have effect.” [^9] The Holy Prophet (S) also said, “Look very carefully and minutely as to where you are placing your child because genes and hereditary qualities are transferred in a concealed and unintentional way and have their effect.” [^10] E. Reason The Commander of the Faithful, ‘Ali (A.S.) strongly forbade marrying a foolish and insane person.
“Avoid marrying a stupid woman, since her company is a woe (distress) and her children too get wasted.” [^11] F. Physical and Mental Health Though religiousness and piety are most important, it does not mean that we totally disregard the physical appearance and beauty of the prospective spouse. The Holy Prophet (S) says, “When one intends to marry a woman, he should ask about her hair, just as he asks about her face (beauty), since the hair is one of the two beauties (of women).” [^12] G.