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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books Social Rules in Islam Pathology of Solitary (Unsociability) Friday Sermon, 21 Nov. 2008 As much as we need socialization some people have problems socializing with others. They can’t make friends or they can’t keep a friendship. As a result they develop a very negative attitude towards society. They accuse every one as being disloyal, treacherous and selfish, thus they suffer from anti-social behavior called ‘solitariness’.

The following are some causes of solitariness. Some Causes of Solitariness Being argumentative Saying offensive jokes الامام الصادق (ع): إن اردت ان یصفو لک ود` اخیک فلاتمازحن`ه و لاتمارین`ه و لاتباهین`ه و لاتشار`ن`ه. - بحار الانوار 78:291 Imam al- Sadiq (a.s): “If you wish to keep the friendship of your friend pure, then do not make jokes about him, do not argue with him, do not boast to him and do not do any evil to him so that he doesn’t do any evil in return to you.

[^1] Keep a bit of formality الامام الکاظم (ع): لاتذهب الحشمة بینک و بین اخیک و أبق منها فان` ذهابها ذهاب الحیاء.- تحف العقول: 409 Imam al- Kadhem (a.s): “Don’t let the formality be removed between you and your friend, rather keep a bit of it, for the removal of complete formality results in removal of shame.” [^2] Hypersensitive (be insensitive as beasts or as patient as prophets) الامام علی (ع): إن صبرتَ صبر الاکارم و الا` سلوتَ سُلُو` البهائم.- نهج البلاغة- قصار 414 Imam ‘Ali (a.s): “If you can endure the patience of the noble people, or else pretend the heedlessness of the beasts.” [^3] Picking up any mistakes: (78:229 الامام الصادق (ع): الاستقصاء فرقة.- بحار الانوار Imam al- Sadiq (a.s): “Counting (the mistakes of a friend) causes separation.” [^4] The golden advice of Imam al- Sajjad (a.s) to gain a healthy social relationship: الطبرسی بالإسناد عن ابی محمد العسکری (ع) عن آبائه أن` محمد بن علی الباقر (ع) قال: دخل محمد بن مسلم بن شهاب الزُهری علی علی بن الحسین علیهما السلام و هو کئیب حزین.

فقال له زین العابدین (ع): ما بالک مغموما؟ قال: یا بن رسول الله! غموم و هموم تتوالی علی` لما امتُحنتُ به من جهة حس`اد نعمتی و الطامعین فی`، و ممن ارجو و مم`ن احسنتُ الیه فیُخلف ظن`ی. فقال له علی بن الحسین (ع): إحفظ علیک لسانک تملک به إخوانک. قال الزهری: یا بن رسول الله! انی اُحسن الیهم بما یبدر من کلامی. قال علی بن الحسین (ع): هیهات هیهات! ای`اک أن تُعجب من نفسک بذلک و ای`اک ان تتکلم بما یسبق الی القلوب إنکاره و ان کان عندک اعتذاره، فلیس کل من تسمعه نکرا (شر`ا: نسخة) یمکنک أن توسعه عذرا.