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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books Youth and Spouse Selection Chapter Six: Selection In the previous discussions, especially the 5th chapter, some of the people for whom these discussion are arranged, would usually ask this question “How and by what means should one recognize and select a spouse”? We gave them a short response, saying, please wait until we reach this topic and then we will give a detailed answer. Now is the time for that.

Time to Act Now that we have learnt the merits ad excellence of marriage, the time of marriage, the benefits of its early execution and demerits of its delay, the difficulties, hurdles and restraints on its way and their solutions and the standards of spouse selection and with the help of Allah decided to marry, how should we proceed? Now that we have achieved the knowledge of its criteria, what is the way of identifying the spouse who may be concordant with these standards?

and how can we ascertain that our standards have been secured? Briefly, after getting to know the theory, we wish to practice it. so how must we cross this bridge? Answer: At a time when the standards and principles are in one's hand and one knows what one wants, then moving on the way is not very difficult (although it is a small thing to do and needs concentration). It is like a traveller, who has a destination and knows which way he is heading and what is his object and goal.

But such a traveller must have a guide map to reach his destination, safe and sound. From the beginning of these discussions up to 5, the aim was described clearly (thanks to God). In this chapter, the guide map will Insha’Allah, be illustrated and clarified.

Selection Just as different standards are set up for handing over various office and posts and individuals are selected according to those standards and specifications, similarly, for selecting the post of spouse, person must be selected according to its criteria (for both a boy and a girl). This selection has a very important role to play in the lives of both.

Perfect Recognition The girl and boy who want to select someone as their spouse must have a complete and all out recognition of that person. The attainment of this recognition is one of the unavoidable necessities.