As a result, the harm and damage will exceed the benefit (if any).

As a result, the harm and damage will exceed the benefit (if any). The adviser's qualities are as follows: 1- Religiousness An irreligious man cannot be confided in. A religious one, besides being worthy of confidence, looks at the matters from an Islamic point of view and he gives his opinion according to Islamic standards. 2- Wits And Intelligence 3- Having Sufficient Knowledge And Awareness About The Problems Of Spouse Selection And Marriage.

4- Freedom and Independence Of Opinion Expression; He may express his opinion and belief freely and fearlessly, short of any wrong consideration. A person who lacks freedom of opinion may take some incorrect policies into consideration, which may harm the advice-seeker. 5- Having Goodwill 6- Trustworthy Parents can have an important role in this connection and be sympathetic and well-wishing advisers to the youths.

📌They may put their views and experiences at the disposal of their children, not thrusting and imposing those on them. An Important Reminder The youth, after having taken the views and advice of others, should make the decisions themselves. The linkage between the advice seeker and the adviser should be like that of the pilot with the 'control tower', that is to say, he may take the information and guidance, but the control and the decision must be in his own hand.

Allah says about the Prophet (S): وشاورهم في الأمر فإذا عزمت فتوكل علي الله. “And take counsel with them in the affair, so when you have decided, then place your trust in Allah;” Second Way: Mediator and Introducer A person who introduces the boy and the girl for marriage is an introducer or mediator.

Sometimes after introducing them, he even extends help and assistance in the process or he does not introduce, but the youth himself or his family turns to him for help in the search of a suitable person or for guidance in this regard. The worth and divine reward of this act ha s already been described. This mediation and introduction and referring to the introducer or mediator can have a great importance in spouse selection.

Therefore, one must be very careful in conducting this affair and must not depend or trust every Tom, Dick and Harry. Instead, the personality of the mediator must have some qualities. The boy and the girl also have some duties in this respect, which must be taken into consideration.

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