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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books The Codes of Training Respect It is always the wish of the parents that their children are well behaved. Good and polite children are a source of pride for every parent. The well behaved children politely greet the person they visit, shake hands with him, enquire about his health, converse softly, limit the conversation to what is asked of them and say proper adieus when departing from the hosts place.

Such children give due respect to the elders, when elders arrive they politely stand up, show deference to the scholars, religious figures and generally respect pious and good persons. In a gathering they remain cool and collected, dont talk loudly, thank the person who gives them something, dont interrupt others, particularly the elders during conversations.

They say Bismillah (In the name of Allah the Beneficent the Merciful), the Islamic Grace, before starting to eat, they take small morsels of food, dont eat excessively, dont throw food on the table or the floor and follow all the required table manners. They take care of their dresses that they dont get stained and try to remain clean and tidy. They will be considerate to the others and never hurt others feelings.

They walk with a decent gait and give the impression of being obedient and decent children. They dont ridicule others with practical jokes and when someone speaks to them, they listen with rapt attention. It is not only the parents who like polite children, but they are popular with all who happen to interact with them. Impertinent and impolite children are abhorred by all. Ameer al-Momineen says: Respectability is the zenith of humanity. [1] Respect (politeness) in a man is like pretty raiment.

[2] Good behavior (politeness) is required by people more than silver or gold. [3] There is no better embellishment than politeness in a man. [4] The best inheritance a father can give to his son is to train him to be of polite. [5] An impolite person will have more failings**[6]** Imam Jafar Sadiq says: Allow your child to play till the seven years of age, then teach him good manners and politeness. [7] [1] Ghurar al-Hikam, Page 34. [2] Ibid., Page 21. [3] Ibid., Page 242. [4] Ibid., Page 830.

[5] Ibid., Page 293. [6] Ibid., Page 634. [7] Bihar al-Anwar, Vol. 104, Page 95. The Holy Prophet of Islam said: The child has three rights over its parents: They select a good name for him/her. Make him/her respectful (polite).