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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books The Codes of Training Independence There are plenty of parents who think that restricting or denying any freedom to the children is good upbringing. They think that the children are incapable of distinguishing between good and bad. They dont have enough wisdom and if they are given some independence, they might go astray. Such parents start thinking for the child and make all the decisions for him.

They try to keep control over the childs eating, playing and other activities. They want to model the childs life according to their own thinking. They believe that the child doesnt have any right to independence and freedom. He should not do anything without the express permission of the parents. Whatever the parents decide, the child must do implicitly without a whimper. Whatever the parents decide is wrong, the child must stop doing without any complaint.

The children have no say in the plan of upbringing charted by such parents. Earlier, most families used to follow this policy for upbringing their children. They used to bring up the children with a iron hand. Even these days there are families that follow this practice of their forbears. Although such has been the practice in the past, and is still followed by some families, it is not a desirable trend. It has many drawbacks and lacunae.

There is always a possibility that with such training the children might remain comfortable, quiet and obedient to the parents. But they grow into timid persons devoid of self- confidence. Their inventive and innovative instincts will become dormant. They will not have the courage to take up important and difficult tasks in hand. They are also not capable of becoming leaders. But they will be habituated of taking orders and bearing ill treatment stoically.

When they grow up, they are not able to overcome this defect easily. They carry a hitch in their psyche that might later on be the cause of several psychological ailments. It is also possible that such persons develop sadistic tendencies and become tyrannical with their children and others. Many intellectuals and psychologists have started a campaign against this cruel practice of upbringing and are advocating total freedom for the children.

They advise the parents to leave the children free to act according to their own desire and liking. They say that the child should be free to do anything that he desires, although it may not be the right thing in your eyes.