This way the child will grow with an independent mind.

This way the child will grow with an independent mind. The famous psychologist Sigmund Freud believes in this method and has many followers in the East and the West. Lot of parents too followed this method in upbringing their children. They have given total freedom to their children and do not order them around. But this practice too is not totally right. It has several drawbacks. The children brought up this way dont believe in any restriction for doing what they decide to do.

Such children generally will be selfish, excitable and of impudent nature. They think that others dont have any rights. They usurp others rights and privileges. They unnecessarily trouble their brothers and sisters. Such children tend to become a nuisance to their neighbors and others. Because their desires are driven by total independence, they commit excesses towards others. Their expectations reach such a level that they will find it difficult to fulfill them.

When such children grow into adults they expect others to obey them without any complaint. They dont want to be controlled by anyone else. When they notice that they are unable to get their way with others, then they become heart-broken after having faced rebuffs in the society they become reclusive, or, to take revenge against their defeats they devise stratagems for tyranny and dangerous acts. Unrestricted freedom sometimes becomes hazardous too.

Sometimes a child wishes to run dangerously on the road or to touch the live electrical wire. Thus, the two methods of upbringing, one that gives no freedom to the child and the other which recommends total freedom, are both fraught with glaring faults. The best path to follow in the matter of the upbringing of the child is to give him selective freedom. Allah has endowed the human beings with different instincts and feelings that go to make the nature of a person.

Some of these instincts are love, hate, bravery, fear etc. These are intrinsic feelings and notions endowed by Allah to all human beings for tackling the problems that confront them. These instincts go to make the individuals personality. In a free environment these instincts keep growing. Fear is for escape from dangers. Anger helps in deciding to attack the adversary. Diligence is required for acquiring learning.

A person who does not have the instinct of fear and anger in his nature will be an inferior person. It is not right to suppress these instincts in a child.