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Shiavault - a Vault of Shia Islamic Books The Child's Education in Islam Fifthly : Equality Between Distress and Leniency Honoring the child, doing goods to him, making him to feel love and sympathy, making him to feel his status in the society, that he is accepted by his parent and the community, he should not exceed the proper bond or limit and should not allow complete freedom to act according to his wishes.

It is incumbent on the parents to lay down equality method in their dealing with the child. Don't be so much lenience to reach the utmost limit of leniency and not to be severely in all that he committed but leniency and severity at their limit. Let moderation prevail between the two (i.e. leniency and severity) in all stand till he transcend the stage of childhood with peace and tranquility.

He will then differentiate between the beloved and the disregarded conducts because the first five or six years in the child's life is where he constitute his personal mode of life. Verily the narrations have laid emphasis on moderation while dealing with child without negligence or excessiveness. Imam Al-Baqir (peace be upon him) said: "The worst father is he whose kindness has led to immoderate ......"[^30].

It is incumbent on the parents when the child committed some disagreeing conduct to make him feels the wrong of this disagreed conduct and try to convinced him to abstain from it, he should reproach or punishes him spiritually and not corporal punishment if conviction and leniency are not beneficial because psychological punishment is better than corporal punishment just as Imam Musa bn Jaafar Al-kazim (peace be upon him) answered on how to deal with the children and said : "Don't beat him, dissociate with him but not for a long time"[^31].

In a repetition of the child's short-comings Imam did not call for leniency and tolerance and did not also call for continuous spiritual punishment (i.e. dissociation) but he calls for moderation and balance between punishment and leniency. Negligence and immoderate leads to negative effect on the child in all aspect like mentally, psychologically and morally.

It is incumbent in light of free educational method to create moderation between commendation and reproach because excess commendation is like reproach for its effect on the child emotionally and makes him anxiously worried. The child that (rise from excess compassion will not be able to resist the changes in life before him or to strive with it)[^32].