The emotional maturity of a child who is babied delayed and...

The emotional maturity of a child who is babied delayed and his childhood period prolonged before him.[^33]. He will then remain in need of his parents in all stances that face him, this situation continued with him till his old age. That is why we can find youth and matured ones in our society waiting for the community to call for their needs or to support their views or to praise and commend them. They are not also able to confront the problems standing before their aspirations.

It is the same saying to the child whose conduct is disregarded or who is subjected to insult or excessive reproach from the side of the parents or the children that are made to be accountable to all that occurred from them. Like wise Imam Ali (peace be upon him) said: "Immoderate in reproach rises the deep flame"[^34]. That is why we find in the community the phenomenon of the perverted ones whose attitudes are hostile towards others; they were subjected to insult and continuous punishment.

It is then incumbent on the parents to laid down a program enlightening the children the good and bad deeds so that commendation and reproach will base on what he has committed and it enable us to plant love for good deeds and hatred for bad deeds in his mind. In this stage you should struggle to strengthen the inner-most of the child so that it will be his future plans.

We should plant fear from committing bad deed and motivate him for good deeds instead of fear from punishment and motivation for commendation and laudation. The parents should let commendation and reproach sincerely for the aim of educating the children and should not reflect their psychological status while educating them like he who was confronted with problems and cast his anger on the child without any justification.

In this respect the holy Prophet (peace be upon him and his descendants) has forbade educating while on a state of anger[^35]. There are some situations the parents have to be very vigilant so that reverse effect should not be on the child's sense and psychology.

For example a child that break in to pieces some costly items in the house he deems he has done a nice job by making it two through breaking it and he is demanding praise and commendation for the well done job, the child will be surprise of being punished instead of commendation. The punishment will then have its psychological effect on the child.