The means of assistance is as specified by the Prophet...

The means of assistance is as specified by the Prophet (peace be upon him and his descendants) "May Allah bless a servant that help his child for his obedience by doing good to him, harmonize with him teaches and educates him"[^13]. He (peace be upon him and his descendants) said: "May Allah blessed he who assist his child for his obedience, that is to forgive his short-comings and prays for him for what is between him and Allah"[^14].

The Prophet (peace be upon him and his descendants) said: "May Allah blessed he who helps his child for his obedience ..... He accepts his feasible and over-looks his short-comings; he does not oppress him nor encroach with him ....."[^15] The children's love for their parents is the reaction of the parent's love for them[^16]. Verily obedience will occurred if love prevailed in the relations between the child and his parents.

The children will obey the parent's orders if their orders are lenient, gentle and if it is inform of advices and guidance but if you apply reproach and tongue-lashing reverse will be the result, that is why the psychologist and the educationist advices parents to minimize tongue-lashing as it came from the saying of Anwar Jandi: (Tongue-lashing is aimed when an offence occurred because much tongue-lashing distress the hearing of the blamed one and lessen the cause of the utterances[^17].

The child that obtains love and appreciation will not deem obedience to parent's order as imperfection for his wish for independence. With the love that the child feels will deepen his self acceptance to imitate the conduct of those that loves him like the parents, their conduct will then reflect in him and he will henceforth obeys them.

The child will have a rest and act as a matured in a form he will not offend the parents if he is treated as a matured human being that possess a stature, he will then be accustomed with obedient to the parents consequently he will obey all personalities he meets from his parents or from the school or from the community.

Forthly : Doing Good to The Child and Honoring Him The child of this stage is in need of love and appreciation from the side of the parents and in need of his recognition and his status in the family and in the society and to focus brightness on him. He will be developing at any time he perceive he is love and that the parents or the community feels of his personality and status.