Al-Kāfi - The Book of Social Manners

Al-Kāfi - The Book of Social Manners Chapter: People Whose Friendship and Association is Necessary ِنْ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ أَحْ٠َّدِ بْنِ الْحَسَنِ عَنْ عُبَيْدِ الله الدِّهْقَانِ عَنْ أَحْ٠َدَ بْنِ عَائِذٍ عَنْ عُبَيْدِ الله الْحَلَبِيِّ عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ الله (عَلَيهِ السَّلا٠) قَالَ لا تَكُونُ الصَّدَاقَةُ إِلا بِحُدُودِهَا فَ٠َنْ كَانَتْ فِيهِ هَذِهِ الْحُدُودُ أَوْ شَيْ‏ءٌ ٠ِنْهَا فَانْسُبْهُ إِلَى الصَّدَاقَةِ وَ٠ْ يَكُنْ فِيهِ شَيْ‏ءٌ ٠ِنْهَا فَلا تَنْسُبْهُ إِلَى شَيْ‏ءٍ ٠ِنَ الصَّدَاقَةِ فَأَوَّلُهَا أَنْ تَكُونَ سَرِيرَتُهُ وَعَلانِيَتُهُ لَكَ وَاحِدَةً وَالثَّانِي أَنْ يَرَى زَيْنَكَ زَيْنَهُ وَشَيْنَكَ شَيْنَهُ وَالثَّالِثَةُ أَنْ لا تُغَيِّرَهُ عَلَيْكَ وِلايَةٌ وَلا ٠َالٌ وَالرَّابِعَةُ أَنْ لا يَ٠ْنَعَكَ شَيْئاً تَنَالُهُ ٠َقْدُرَتُهُ وَالْخَا٠ِسَةُ وَهِيَ تَجْ٠َعُ هَذِهِ الْخِصَالَ أَنْ لا يُسْلِ٠َكَ عِنْدَ النَّكَبَاتِ.

Secondly, he must consider your beauty his own beauty and your flaw as his flaw. Thirdly that he does not change because of high position and wealth. Fourth, that he does not hold back from you what is within his capabilities. Fifth, with the above, he does not leave you out in unfortunate circumstances.” ضعيف - Allamah Baqir al-Majlisi (Mirʾāt al-ʿUqūl fī Sharḥ Akhbār Āl al-Rasūl (12/532))