[1] We present another Hadith in the interpretation of 4...

[1] We present another Hadith in the interpretation of 4:34; ضا، فقه الرضا عليه السلام‏ وَ أَمَّا النُّشُوزُ فَقَدْ يَكُونُ مِنَ الرَّجُلِ وَ يَكُونُ مِنَ الْمَرْأَةِ (The book) ‘Fiqh Al-Reza -asws ’ – ‘And as for the desertion (4:34), it happens from the man and happens from the woman.

فَأَمَّا الَّذِي مِنَ الرَّجُلِ فَهُوَ يُرِيدُ طَلَاقَهَا فَتَقُولُ لَهُ أَمْسِكْنِي وَ لَكَ مَا عَلَيْكَ وَ قَدْ وَهَبْتُ لَيْلَتِيْ لَكَ وَ يَصْطَلِحَانِ عَلَى هَذَا As for which is from the man, he wants to divorce her, so she says to him, ‘Keep me and for you is what is upon you, and I hereby gift my nights to you’, and they both reconcile upon this.

فَإِذَا نَشَزَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ كَنُشُوزِ الرَّجُلِ فَهُوَ الْخُلْعُ إِذَا كَانَ مِنَ الْمَرْأَةِ وَحْدَهَا فَهُوَ أَنْ لَا تُطِيعَهُ وَ هُوَ مَا قَالَ اللَّهُ تَبَارَكَ وَ تَعَالَى- وَ اللَّاتِي تَخافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَ اهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضاجِعِ وَ اضْرِبُوهُنَ When the woman desert like the desertion of the man, it is ‘Al-Khul’a’, when it happens from the woman alone, so she does not obey him, and it is what Allah -azwj Blessed and Exalted Says: And for those whom you are fearing desertion, advise them and forsake them in the beds and strike them.

[4:34] . فَالْهَجْرُ أَنْ يُحَوِّلَ إِلَيْهَا ظَهْرَهُ فِي الْمَضْجَعِ وَ الضَّرْبُ بِالسِّوَاكِ وَ شِبْهِهِ ضَرْباً رَفِيقاً The forsaking is him turning his back towards her in the bed, and beating with the ‘toothbrush’ (Siwak – symbolically) and it’s an example of a friendly touch .

وَ أَمَّا الشِّقَاقُ فَيَكُونُ مِنَ الزَّوْجِ وَ الْمَرْأَةِ جَمِيعاً كَمَا قَالَ اللَّهُ‏’وَ إِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقاقَ بَيْنِهِما فَابْعَثُوا حَكَماً مِنْ‏ أَهْلِهِ وَ حَكَماً مِنْ أَهْلِها ‘وَ يَخْتَارُ الرَّجُلُ رَجُلًا وَ الْمَرْأَةُ تَخْتَارُ رَجُلًا فَيَجْتَمِعَانِ عَلَى فُرْقَةٍ أَوْ عَلَى صُلْحٍ And as for the breach, it happens from the husband and the wife, both together, just as Allah -azwj Said: And if you fear a breach between the two, then appoint a judge from his family and a judge from her family; [4:35] , and the man choses a man and the woman chooses a man.

They both gather upon either separation or upon reconciling. فَإِنْ أَرَادَا إِصْلَاحاً فَمِنْ غَيْرِ أَنْ يَسْتَأْمِرَا وَ إِنْ أَرَادَا التَّفْرِيقَ بَيْنَهُمَا فَلَيْسَ لَهُمَا إِلَّا بَعْدَ أَنْ يَسْتَأْمِرَا الزَّوْجَ وَ الْمَرْأَةَ.